عن أَسْمَاءَ بنْتِ أبي بكْرٍ الصِّدِّيقِ رضيَ اللّهُ عنهُما قالت: قَدِمَتْ عليَّ أُمِّي وهِيَ مُشركَةٌ في عهْدِ رسولِ اللّهِ صَلّى اللّهُ عَلَيْهِ وسَلَّم، فَاسْتَفتَيْتُ رسولَ اللّهِ صَلّى اللّهُ عَلَيْهِ وسَلَّم قُلتُ: قَدِمَتْ عَليَّ أُمِّي وَهِي راغِبَةٌ، أَفَأَصِلُ أُمِّي؟ قال: «نَعمْ صِلي أُمَّكِ» متفق عليه.
On the authority of Asmā' bint Abi Bakr al-Ṣiddīq (may Allah be pleased with them both), who said: My mother came to me, and she was a polytheist, in the time of the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him). I sought a ruling from the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him), saying: My mother has come to me, and she is desirous (of something from me); shall I maintain ties with my mother? He said: "Yes, maintain ties with your mother." [Agreed upon.]
الشرح · explanation
قدِمتْ عليَّ أمي: أي من مكة إلى المدينة. هي راغِبةٌ: أَي طَامِعةٌ عِندِي تَسْأَلُني شَيئًا، وقيل هي راغبة عن الإسلام كارهة له. أفأصل أمي: أي هل أُحسن إليها وأتصدق عليها.
"My mother came to me" (qadimat ‘alayya ummī): meaning, from Mecca to Medina. "She is desirous" (rāghiba): meaning she desired something from me, asking me for something; and it is said: she is averse to Islam, disliking it. "Shall I maintain ties with my mother": meaning, shall I show her kindness and give her in charity.
الدروس · lessons
جواز صلة القريب المشرك ما دام غير محارب، وخاصة الوالدين، قال تعالى: {وَإِنْ جَاهَدَاكَ عَلَى أَنْ تُشْرِكَ بِي مَا لَيْسَ لَكَ بِهِ عِلْمٌ فَلَا تُطِعْهُمَا وَصَاحِبْهُمَا فِي الدُّنْيَا مَعْرُوفًا} [لقمان: ١٥].
It is permissible to maintain ties with a polytheist relative so long as he is not at war (with Muslims), and especially with parents. Allah Most High said: {And if they strive to make you associate with Me that of which you have no knowledge, do not obey them but accompany them in this world with appropriate kindness} [Luqmān: 15].