عن ابنِ عُمَرَ رضيَ اللهُ عنهما قالَ: كَانَتْ تَحْتِي امْرَأَةٌ، وكُنْتُ أُحِبُّها، وَكَانَ عُمَرُ يكْرَهُهَا، فقالَ لِي: طَلِّقْها فأَبَيْتُ، فَأَتَى عُمَرُ رضي اللهُ عنه النَّبِيَّ صَلّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وسَلَّم، فَذَكرَ ذلكَ لَهُ، فقالَ النَّبِيُّ صَلّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وسَلَّم: «طَلِّقْهَا» رواه أَبو داود، والترمذيّ وقال: حديثٌ حسنٌ صحيح.
Ibn 'Umar (may Allah be pleased with both of them) said: I had a wife whom I loved, but 'Umar disliked her. He said to me: Divorce her. I refused. So 'Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) went to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and mentioned this to him, and the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Divorce her." [Reported by Abu Dawud and al-Tirmidhi, who said: a good and authentic (hasan sahih) hadith]
الشرح · explanation
تَحتي امْرأَة: أي زوجة لي في عِصمتي، ومنه قوله تعالى عن زوجة نوح وزوجة لوط :كَانَتَا تَحْتَ عَبْدَيْنِ مِنْ عِبَادِنَا صَالِحَيْنِ [التحريم 10]. عُمَرُ يكرهُها: لأمرٍ دينيّ ولخُلقٍ ما فيها.
"I had a wife": that is, a woman in my marriage and under my protection. Of this is the saying of Allah the Exalted concerning the wife of Nuh and the wife of Lut: "They were under two of Our righteous servants" [al-Tahrim: 10]. "'Umar disliked her": for a religious reason and on account of some trait in her character.
الدروس · lessons
خشي عمر أن تجرَّ زوجة ابنه إلى عبد اللهِ ضررًا في دينه. أنّ الوالد، إن كان من أهلِ الدِّين والصلاح، وأمر ولده بأمرٍ يُقِرُّه عليه الدِّين، فعليه أن يطيعه ولو خالف هواه. ولو كان عمر ظالمًا لها لَمَا وافقه الرسول صلّى اللهُ عليه وسلّم على ذلك. كان ابن عمر يحب زوجته حبًّا فطريًّا، وكان عمر يكرهها كراهية دينيَّة، فلذلك أمره بطلاقها وأقرَّه الرسول صلّى اللهُ عليه وسلّم على ذلك وأمر ابن عمر بطلاقها.
'Umar feared that his son's wife might draw 'Abd Allah into some harm in his religion. If the father is a person of religion and uprightness, and he commands his child to do something that religion sanctions, then the child is obliged to obey him even if it contradicts his own desire. Had 'Umar been acting unjustly toward her, the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) would not have agreed with him in this. Ibn 'Umar loved his wife with a natural love, while 'Umar disliked her for a religious reason; thus he commanded him to divorce her, and the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) upheld 'Umar and ordered Ibn 'Umar to divorce her.