عَنْ أبي هُريرةَ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُ: أَنَّ رجلًا قال: يا رسولَ الله، إِنَّ لي قَرَابَةً أَصِلُهُمْ وَيَقطَعوني، وَأُحسِنُ إِليهِم ويُسِيئُونَ إليَّ، وأَحلُمُ عَنهمْ ويجهَلُونَ عَلَيَّ فقال صلّى الله عليه وسلّم: «لَئِن كُنتَ كَمَا قُلتَ فَكَأَنَّمَا تُسِفُّهُمُ الملَّ، ولا يزَالُ معكَ منَ اللهِ تعالى ظَهيرٌ عَلَيهِمْ ما دُمْتَ عَلى ذلكَ» رَوَاهُ مُسْلِمٌ .
Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that a man said: "O Messenger of Allah, I have relatives with whom I keep ties while they sever them; I treat them well while they treat me badly; and I am forbearing toward them while they behave ignorantly toward me." The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "If it is as you have said, then it is as though you are feeding them hot ashes, and you will not cease to have a supporter from Allah the Exalted against them as long as you remain in that state." Narrated by Muslim.
الشرح · explanation
أحلم: أصبر وأصفح. يجهلون عليّ: يسيئون إليّ. تُسِفُّهُمْ: تُطْعِمُهُمْ. المَلُّ: الرَّمادُ الحارُّ. ظهير: مُعِين.
I am forbearing: I am patient and pardon. They behave ignorantly toward me: they treat me badly. Tusiffuhum (you feed them): you make them swallow. Al-mall: hot ashes. Zahir (supporter): a helper.
الدروس · lessons
الحثّ على الإحسان إلى المسيء، لأنه ربّما يرتدع فيعود إلى الإحسان. حصول العون والتأييد من الله تعالى لمن يصل رحِمه رغم قطعهم له. ينبغي لمن فُضِّل على أقاربه أن يتواضع لهم ويرفق بهم، فعداوة الأقارب صعبة لذا يُستحبّ الصبر على إيذائهم.
Encouragement to treat well the one who treats you badly, for he may be deterred and so return to good conduct. The attainment of help and support from Allah the Exalted for the one who keeps ties of kinship despite his relatives severing them. It is fitting that one who has been favored over his relatives should be humble and gentle toward them, for the enmity of relatives is hard; therefore patience in bearing their harm is recommended.